MEN--GET YOUR WIVES TO "OPEN UP"...HERE'S HOW

June 27 2013

Emily Ann

WHY MEN WANT MORE SEX THAN WOMEN AND WHAT MEN CAN DO TO GET MORE SEX FROM THEIR MATE

 

[dropcap type="circle" color="#COLOR_CODE" background="#e30756"]S[/dropcap]ex is a major aspect of a romantic relationship for any man and should never be underestimated.  For men, sex is not simply a want.  It is an emotional need.  Men need to have sex to feel connected to their partner, as well as to feel appreciated, invigorated, desired, confident, and secure within the relationship.  It serves to reinforce his masculinity and prowess as a man.  This reinforcement is strengthened by societies acceptance of men as highly sexual creatures.  From a young age boys are taught the following proverbs about sex:

 

•  Self gratification is common and normal

 

• Sex is something to be enjoyed

 

• Sex is something that should be experienced with multiple partners

 

• Sex gives you power

 

• Sex strengthens your self confidence

 

• Guys who have frequent sex with multiple partners are desired by women and admired by men[space height="HEIGHT"]

 

One of the major causes to a breakdown in a relationship arises from sex, or lack thereof.  Not surprisingly this resistance is often precipitated by the woman.  This is not to say sex is not as enjoyable for women as it is for men--it certainly is.  The difference is that women are socialized to think of sex much differently than that of men.  For example, from a young age, girls are taught the following proverbs about sex:

 

• Self gratification is not something that is spoken about, much less encouraged

 

• Sex is something to be enjoyed--but not too much

 

• Sex is something that should be experienced with one person-your husband

 

• Sex takes away your power

 

• Sex ruins your self confidence

 

• Girls who have frequent sex and/or have multiple partners are shunned by both men and women alike[space height="HEIGHT"]
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As a result, women are much more inhibited about sex than men are.  They are far less experienced in terms of knowing their bodies, what feels good and what doesn't, and how to make themselves reach orgasm.  They often aren't able to successfully direct their partner in the bedroom and bring about the big "O" or are too shy to speak up for fear of being thought of as wanton or promiscuous.

What you can do to get her to "open up"


For men, it is important to understand the association that exists with regard to women and sex and realize that sex is something females are made to believe is negative and dispels men.  Even though sex is perfectly acceptable within the confines of a relationship, several associations still exist and must be overcome in the mind of the woman.  Here's how to help her do just that:

 

• Encourage your partner to explore her body intimately when not in your presence.  Let her know how hot you think it is for her to masturbate and turn herself on.

• Take your time during foreplay and use different techniques to stimulate different areas.  Each time you try something new, ask her how it feels and get her to describe the feeling.

• Have her demonstrate on you how and where she likes to be touched and kissed.

• Have her masturbate in front of you.  This is something that can be highly erotic to both men and women.  Particularly if she was raised to be uncomfortable with female self gratification.  The fact that it may be perceived as "taboo" creates risk in the encounter and increases pleasure.

• Encourage her to embrace her sexuality and femininity through positive reinforcement and verbal feedback.

• Foreplay, foreplay, foreplay.  DID I MENTION FOREPLAY!! Read more on the importance of foreplay and how it relates to the amount of sex you have with your partner

• DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES USE HER OPENNESS TOWARD SEX AS A WAY TO ATTACK HER DURING AN ARGUMENT.  Doing so will guarantee a future for the two of you that is completely devoid of sex--let alone good sex!!

Follow these tips and start reaping the rewards of better sex and a healthy and happy marriage!