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In Insider Trading, Blackstone Sells Majority of SeaWorld Shares - NASDAQ.com

In Insider Trading, Blackstone Sells Majority of SeaWorld Shares - NASDAQ.com

US military scandal: A culture of rape? - Inside Story Americas - Al Jazeera English

US military scandal: A culture of rape? - Inside Story Americas - Al Jazeera English

http://www.fbi.gov/wanted/ecap/unknown-suspect-5/view

http://www.fbi.gov/wanted/ecap/unknown-suspect-5/view

High School Cheerleaders Benched for Handing Out Condoms

High School Cheerleaders Benched for Handing Out Condoms

One Dose of HPV Vaccine May Be Enough, Study Finds

One Dose of HPV Vaccine May Be Enough, Study Finds

14-year-old girl films father’s sexual abuse with webcam

14-year-old girl films father’s sexual abuse with webcam

5 ways sexual assault is really about entitlement

5 ways sexual assault is really about entitlement

AN AMERICAN HOSTAGE: FEELING THE EFFECTS OF BEING RAPED AND FRAUDED BY ...

AN AMERICAN HOSTAGE: FEELING THE EFFECTS OF BEING RAPED AND FRAUDED BY ...: Joseph A. Camp --- An American Hostage --- @JosephACamp 607-342-5629 October 20, 2013 FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE FORMER...

How Elizabeth Smart Is Taking On Rape Culture

How Elizabeth Smart Is Taking On Rape Culture: Elizabeth Smart, who became a household name after she was abducted and held captive as a child, is bringing a powerful message about rape culture to other victims of sexual assault.

Five Important Takeaways From A New National Study On U.S. Teens And Sexual Violence

Five Important Takeaways From A New National Study On U.S. Teens And Sexual Violence: One in ten teens say they've committed sexual violence. Most of them don't take any responsibility for it, and half say it was actually the victim's fault.

Bible Scholar: Jesus Never Lived — Myth Created By Romans To Control Masses | The New Civil Rights Movement

Bible Scholar: Jesus Never Lived — Myth Created By Romans To Control Masses | The New Civil Rights Movement

INTRODUCING IDA: THE WORLD'S FIRST COUPLES' MASSAGER THAT ROTATES AND VIBRATES

IDA

The World's First Couples’ Massager that Rotates & Vibrates

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What is Ida™?

Worn by women when making love, Ida™ is the world’s first sensual massager ever to combine intense external vibrations with thrilling rotations within. It's also the first couples' massager of its kind to deliver equal pleasures to both partners - just watch the video to find out more!

Promising to transform the love lives of couples worldwide, Ida™ delivers powerful and near-silent stimulation and increased sensuality to both him and her - for what is truly the mind-blowing new way to share intimacy.

How does it work?

Ida™ features a wide, rounded disc at one end, in which delivers powerful external vibrations while the long and flexible internal pleasure point massages the G-spot with circular rotations, leaving plenty of room for him to simultaneously experience the intimate pleasure inside.

How Ida™ brings pleasure to Her?

The powerful vibrations are directed right to the clitoris, while rotations provide exquisite pleasures to the G-Spot, making this the perfect way to enjoy thrilling simultaneous orgasms with your partner.

How Ida™ brings pleasure to Him?

The vibrations transfer along the shaft of the penis for teasing sensations that are shared, while the rotations bring a completely new, more powerful and satisfying climax than is given by thrusting alone.

The possibilities of sharing vibrations, rotations and intimate sensations is as limitless as your imagination allows.

 

What more can it do?

LELO’s pioneering wireless remote control with SenseMotion™ technology adds a playful twist to almost any situation as it allows one partner to completely surrender control to the other, as you adjust intensity and modes with a touch of a button, or via movement alone!

With twice the power of any other couples’ toy on the market, fully rechargeable and waterproof, with eight variable stimulation modes, Ida™ can be used in almost any position or situation imaginable.

 

FROM THE MOUTHS OF RAPISTS:

THE LYRICS OF ROBIN THICKE’S BLURRED LINES

by Sezin Koehler, Sep 17, 2013, at 12:00 pm

Trigger warning: Graphic descriptions of sexual assault.

Robin Thicke’s summer hit Blurred Lines addresses what he considers to be sounds like a grey area between consensual sex and assault. The images in this post place the song into a real-life context.  They are from Project Unbreakable, an online photo essay exhibit, and feature images of women and men holding signs with sentences that their rapist said before, during, or after their assault.   Let’s begin.

I know you want it.

Thicke sings “I know you want it,” a phrase that many sexual assault survivors report their rapists saying to justify their actions, as demonstrated over and over in the Project Unbreakable testimonials.

You’re a good girl.

Thicke further sings “You’re a good girl,” suggesting that a good girl won’t show her reciprocal desire (if it exists). This becomes further proof in his mind that she wants sex: for good girls, silence is consent and “no” really means “yes.”





Calling an adult a “good girl” in this context resonates with the the virgin/whore dichotomy. The implication in Blurred Lines is that because the woman is not responding to a man’s sexual advances, which of course are irresistible, she’s hiding her true sexual desire under a facade of disinterest. Thicke is singing about forcing a woman to perform both the good girl and bad girl roles in order to satisfy the man’s desires.



Thicke and company, as all-knowing patriarchs, will give her what he knows she wants (sex), even though she’s not actively consenting, and she may well be rejecting the man outright.

Do it like it hurt, do it like it hurt, what you don’t like work?

This lyric suggests that women are supposed to enjoy pain during sex or that pain is part of sex:



The woman’s desires play no part in this scenario – except insofar as he projects whatever he pleases onto her — another parallel to the act of rape: sexual assault is generally not about sex, but rather about a physical and emotional demonstration of power.

The way you grab me.
Must wanna get nasty.

This is victim-blaming.  Everybody knows that if a woman dances with a man it means she wants to sleep with him, right? And if she wears a short skirt or tight dress she’s asking for it, right? And if she even smiles at him it means she wants it, right?  Wrong.  A dance, an outfit, a smile — sexy or not — does not indicate consent.  This idea, though, is pervasive and believed by rapists.





And women, according to Blurred Lines, want to be treated badly.

Nothing like your last guy, he too square for you.
He don’t smack your ass and pull your hair like that.

In this misogynistic fantasy, a woman doesn’t want a “square” who’ll treat her like a human being and with respect. She would rather be degraded and abused for a man’s gratification and amusement, like the women who dance around half naked humping dead animals in the music video.



The pièce de résistance of the non-censored version of Blurred Lines is this lyric:

I’ll give you something to tear your ass in two.

What better way to show a woman who’s in charge than violent, non-consensual sodomy?



Ultimately, Robin Thicke’s rape anthem is about male desire and male dominance over a woman’s personal sexual agency. The rigid definition of masculinity makes the man unable to accept the idea that sometimes his advances are not welcome. Thus, instead of treating a woman like a human being and respecting her subjectivity, she’s relegated to the role of living sex doll whose existence is naught but for the pleasure of a man.



In Melinda Hugh’s Lame Lines parody of Thicke’s song she sings, “You think I want it/ I really don’t want it/ Please get off it.”  The Law Revue Girls “Defined Lines” response toBlurred Lines notes, “Yeah we don’t want it/ It’s chauvinistic/ You’re such a bigot.”  Rosalind Peters says in her one-woman retort, “Let’s clear up something mate/ I’m here to have fun/ I’m not here to get raped.”

There are no “blurred lines.” There is only one line: consent.

And the absence of consent is a crime.

WILL HE CHANGE HIS CHEATING WAYS FOR ME?

Woman's ears across the country have just perked up. This one question is what each of us want to know before getting ourselves involved with a guy whose track record with women has been less than successful.  There are numberous explations out there for WHY men cheat.  These explanations primarily place blame on the woman by stating that a man who cheats does so because he doesn't get  getting an adequate amount of love, attention, and affectiona man's infedeility is a natural response by a man who's natural longing for love, connectedness, afection, and attention The vast majority of these "explanations" hold the wife/gf accountable by stating that infedility is the natural reaction she either failed to give him the love, attention, and affection he required, and she was unwilling to submit to her husbands idea of

One of my best guy friends is a total player who always strings girls along. If he actually does get into a relationship, he usually winds up cheating. He says that he just hasn't met a girl who could actually hold his interest. Well, I guess he decided that I was that girl, because the other day, he confessed his love for me. I feel the same way, but I'm concerned about his cheating. He said that it would be different with me, but I'm not sure. What do you think?

Not to be a player hater, but you need to be cautious. Very cautious. If at some point he had proved to be a nice, decent boyfriend, I might say, "Go for it!" because at least you'd know he was capable of a healthy relationship. But all you have to go on is his lying, cheating track record. That should be a big flashing warning sign to stay the hell away. Another red flag: Notice how he never takes responsibility for his infidelity — he blames his bad behavior on the fact that the girls were lame, rather than admitting to his own shortcomings. This attitude is what allows a cheater to indulge in all of his selfish whims — without regard for anyone else's feelings. I know, I know. You're probably saying, "But it will be different with me. He just hasn't met The One...and I'm it!" Why is it that every woman thinks she's going to save a man from his heinous habits? The truth is, most people don't change, at least not very much. To expect that a player will magically morph into a monogamous man is asking a lot. Even if you do give it a chance, I worry you won't ever be able to trust him. Knowing what he's done to others, you don't think you'll get jealous if he comes home late one night or you catch him talking to another girl? I know you have feelings for him, and maybe it's worth a shot. Hey, I hope I'm wrong! But if he ends up doing the same thing to you that he's done to countless other chicks, you'll not only lose a boyfriend but a good friend as well.

CLITORIS 101: YOUR GUIDE TO THE CLIT (YOU'RE WELCOME)

CLITORIS 101

So, the clit has been making the news lately, and here’s why: it is way bigger and way more complicated that anyone thought. The fact that this information had not been discovered or shared until just a few years ago…well, there are cultural and political discussions that we can have about that. But for right now, I want to show you what the clit really looks like.

Take a look!



The clitoris, in all of its glory, it the yellow bit. Please notice how it is has wings, known as crura, and a part that wraps around the vagina, known as corpora cavemosa, in addition to the glans, which is the part of the clit that we can see.

The parts we can’t see can be up to 9 centimeters long! This means that the clit is really big! And holy cow, just think of all the new ways the clit can be stimulated, now that we know this! The clit has NO OTHER FUNCTION except PLEASURE!

There’s the traditional rubbing, stroking, licking or sucking on the glans. If you own a clit, and you haven’t tried giving yourself pleasure with your clit, please start with touching the visible part. It’s the easiest to access. Some like gentle touches, some like a firmer hand. Some like varying degrees.

I am most fascinated with the crura. These wings are located within or under the outer lips (labia majora) of the vulva. When a clitoris-owning person gets sexually excited, the whole structure of the clit becomes engorged with blood, including the crura, which is why the vulva looks swollen or puffed up. That means that the labia can be stimulated in a new way! If the partner keeps this in mind while touching with fingers or mouth, then things could get crazy good pleasurable for the clit owner. Here’s a great description I found from Men’s Health (surprisingly): “Stimulate the crura by forming a peace sign with your fingers: Place the tip of the V around the glans of her clitoris so your fingers face downward on either side of her vaginal opening. Apply undulating pressure.” A clit owner can try this on themselves or a partner can try it.

Also, I want to point out that the part of the clit that wraps around the vagina is really close to the vulva, not deep in near the cervix. This means that, for some, penetration play might feel best closer the vaginal opening rather than way up in there.

I wonder what more we’ll find out about the clit in the years to COME. See what I did there? Heh.

 

*This article was originally published on September 4th at http://pleaseplease.me/

ONLINE PORN ADDICTION

The popular new movie Don Jon has opened to excellent reviews.  The movie is about a strong, sexy, good old fashioned guy named Jon Martello (Joseph Gordon-Levitt)  His buddies call him Don Jon due to his ability to "pull" a different woman every weekend.  But even the finest fling doesn't compare to the love he finds alone in front of a computer--online pornography.

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Despite the lightheartedness of the film, it's story line underscores a growing epidemic in our society.  Approximately 1 in 8 Americans suffer from internet addiction, the most common form being addiction cyber-sex and cyber-porn.  The addiction is defined as a compulsive urge to seek out, view, and masturbate to online pornographic imagery.  These urges are uncontrollable and often impede on a persons ability and desire to seek out, establish, and nurture "real life" connections with other individuals.

THE INTERNET'S ROLE

Cyber-sex and cyber-porn addiction can be attributed to the widespread availability of sexually graphic imagery and content via the world wide web and is responsible for a 60% increase in new cases of online sexual compulsivity.  This is due to the perfect venue the internet provides to anonymously engage in exhibition/voyeurism, engage in sexually explicit and elicit activity and conversations via chat rooms, and sell/trade pornographic photos, videos and other material.

WHO'S BECOMING ADDICTED AND WHY

More and more men who've never had a history of addiction, visiting strip clubs, and/or renting adult videos report becoming addicted to online sex.  A recent study showed that over 60% of recovering online sex addicts are reported to fall under that category.  So how is it that these types of men nevertheless fall prey to the underworld of online sex?

The internet provides users with the opportunity to dabble in chat rooms and download pornography from the privacy of their own home, office, or mobile phone.  They use the anonymity of the internet to explore hidden or repressed sexual fantasies.  The pleasure received from exploring these fantasies can be quite thrilling and intoxicating.  As a result, the behavior gets reinforced.  As the addiction grows, the user becomes more and more preoccupied with using the internet for sexual purposes.

MODERATION IS KEY

Those addicted with online pornography find it extremely easy to deny their addiction and sweep the problem under the rug.  The internet provides the addict with a safe haven to sexually act out without hurting anyone.  The online sex community reinforces the notion that addiction to online porn isn't just normal, but that's it actually to be expected.  It is never normal to allow one particular aspect of your personality to take over your entire life.  Moderation is key. The issue isn't whether you do it, but the extent to how much time and effort you put towards doing it.  As with everything enjoyable in life, moderation is key.  One can't fully appreciate the positive feelings associated with indulging in any particular activity without also experiencing the negative feelings inflicted by it's absence.

 

If you or someone you love is struggling with internet addiction, visit www.netaddiction.com for help, information, and resources.

 

 

 

4 MALE SEX TOYS EVERY GUY MUST TRY

For whatever reason, there's a lingering social stigma regarding men and sex toys. While women can talk openly about their vibrators, a man with a pocket pussy is regarded as some kind of bizarre pervert.

Let me speak directly to the men right now: If your life is devoid of sex toys, you are missing out, my friend. Here are four things every man should have in his bedside table drawer.

1. COCK RING

I seriously wonder why any man has sex without one of these. A simple cock ring attaches around the base of the penis or scrotum, trapping blood inside the penis. What this means is a rock hard erection from a stiff breeze.

Unlike your high school days of discovering women's bra straps for the first time, however, you're not going to have an orgasm without some serious effort on your part. Before you talk to your doctor about Viagra, talk to your local porn store clerk about a cock ring.

Suggestion:

TOR 2 is the world’s first waterproof and rechargeable couples’ ring, boasting 100% more powerful vibrations than any product of its kind. the smooth silicone design comfortably fits all sizes, bringing a long-lasting presence to him and amazing sensations for her.

2.  MALE VIBRATORS

A Vibrator for men??? Yes! That's right! It's time for you men to STOP envying a woman's ability to have super-intense, long-lasting orgasm and START experiencing them for yourself!!

The prostate, or "P-Spot, is the male equivalent to the G-Spot in women.  Stimulating this area using a male prostate vibe enables a guy to attain a different type of orgasm, one that is far stronger and sustaining than those achieved through traditional means of penile friction.  Assuming you're a man who loves mind-blowing sex, this vibes for you!

Suggestion:

The BILLY 2 by LELO is a gentleman’s prostate massager ideal for exploring a more energetic sensation within. With an ergonomic design perfectly suited to the male form, he offers sustained control through five powerful vibration modes. Such versatility achieves breathtaking results, where stimulation may be kept mild during arousal, before increasing to the levels that excite you most. Whether enjoyed individually or with a partner, BILLY is a highly discreet and satisfying companion, always primed to deliver the most varied feelings of release.

3.  FLESH LIGHT

If you're going to get a masturbation toy, why not get the very best? Not only will the terminally single man find this a reasonable substitute for the physical pleasures of the boudoir, bachelors on the prowl can use it to keep their stamina in check between long dry spells.

A great way to give your dick a workout: combine this with a cock ring and you're basically cross-training your balls for a sexual triathlon.

Suggestion:

You can skimp on a pocket pussy or you can get the product that's almost synonymous with male masturbation toys--THE FLESHLIGHT!  You can grab one now at Amazon.com for under $60, and considering it's raving reviews that boast of it's lifelike feel, that's a pretty damn good bargain.  The Fleshlight even comes in a "Stamina Endurance" edition featuring maximum tightness to increase your staying power in bed.

4.  GENTLEMAN'S PLUG

Guys I know this isn't the easiest topic to discuss, but let me be blunt: Stop being a baby and get to know your prostate! Frankly, there's something a little childish and well, unmanly about a man who's afraid to experience the pleasure of his own butthole!!

You might not actually be into it, but unless you do some serious fiddling around down there, you're never going to know for sure. And hey, if you can't get down with the brown, you can at least get into some perineum stuff! Pressing hard on this region refered to as "the taint" is extremely pleasurable and exhilarating for guys.  So try it!!....Like, right now!

Suggestion:

The NJOY PROSTATE PFUN PLUG is the best of its kind.  Specifically ergonomically designed and engineered to target the prostate, the Pfun Plug offers firm, controlled massage to the male G-Spot.  The plug can be controlled manually, or activated with the user's muscles in "hand-off" mode.

MEN & MARRIAGE: THE SECRET TO FINDING "THE ONE"

MEN & MARRIAGE:

THE SECRET TO FINDING LONG LASTING LOVE

Since the 1970s just about half of all first marriages end in divorce(with the risks of second and third marriages ending in divorce increasing to 60 percent and more).  Evidence shows this astounding statistic can, in part, be attributed to 2 major myths a vast majority of men consider to be true.

MYTH #1: FIDELITY IS A CONCEPT ASSOCIATED WITH A MUCH SHORTER LIFESPAN

Humans today live significantly longer than those centuries ago when the concept of male monogamy was first introduced.  Today the current life expectancy is 78.7 years, (however does vary based on the country you live in, gender, lifestyle, and ethnicity).  To an average guy who gets marred in his mid to late 20s, being intimate with just one woman for the next 50 years is simply unrealistic.

MYTH #2: SEXUAL ATTRACTION IS THE MOST IMPORTANT COMPONENT OF A LASTING RELATIONSHIP

Researchers have found that the most influential factor to sustaining a long lasting successful relationship has little to do with sexual attraction.  The true secret to sustaining long term love is not who turns you on the most, but rather who you're able to connect with best on an emotional, mental and spiritual level.  Adjunct Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Stanford University, Thomas Plante, Ph.D points out "The day-to-day life of marital partners is so much more about shared interests, values, and perspectives on life and the world rather than who you enjoy looking at and having sex with for a few hours in your week or month. While this notion seems obvious it is remarkable how few people follow the wisdom on this principle".

IN SUM

For men who believe their ability to connect with the hottest woman around will accelerate the relationship beyond what is capable with a average looking woman, who's personality you love and with whom you enjoy being around.  Remind yourself which strategy is more likely to result in a relationship that lasts "till death do you part".

 

 

MISTAKES MEN MAKE IN BED

FEMALE MASTURBATION: FACT VS. FICTION

 

90% OF ALL WOMEN MASTURBATE

FACT

In 1953, 62% of women admitted to masturbating. In 1979, that number jumped to 74%. Today, nine out of 10 women admit to pleasuring themselves, and two-thirds admit to masturbating at least three times a week.

Many sexologists believe that 90% rate has been consistent for decades, only the women of years past were conditioned to be secretive of their habits.

 

SALIVA IS AN ADEQUATE LUBRICANT

MYTH

While saliva is the body’s second-most natural moisturizer for masturbation (behind naturally produced genital lubrication), a recent University of Michigan study has found that women who use saliva as a lubricant for masturbation run a higher risk of developing frequent yeast infections.

According to the data, saliva can disrupt the balance of vaginal bacteria. For the safest, most-pleasurable lubrication sensations, try a water-based personal lubricant.

 

PEOPLE WHO HAVE REGULAR SEX MASTURBATE LESS

MYTH

We’ve all heard the lame, cringe-worthy “I don’t need to masturbate” from at least one of our friends. Well, it turns out they might be missing out on much more than the joys of self-fulfillment. While seemingly paradoxical, the more someone has sex, the more he or she tends to masturbate. In short, more masturbation means a more open view of sex.

 

THERE ARE 3 TYPES OF FEMALE ORGASMS

FACT

While some might liberally dish out double-digit figures on this stat, blurring the lines between orgasm fact vs. myth, there are generally three kinds of climax a woman can achieve—clitoral orgasm, vaginal orgasm and combination—combination being the simultaneous experience of both clitoral and vaginal.

As you can imagine, the combination orgasm was also the most difficult to attain—that is, until a certain rabbit vibrator came along.

 

MASTURBATION IS A COMMON PAIN RELIEVER

FACT

While you’ve surely heard that orgasms are good for your health, let’s get down to some specifics. Women who masturbate regularly report relief from menstrual cramps, improved symptoms of PMS, including irritability and crankiness, and fewer headaches. In addition, masturbation is one of the most effective self-medicating stress relievers.

 

 

TOP 5 FEMALE ORGASM MYTHS DEBUNKED

We all have heard about the half-baked truths on female orgasm. Most men and many women are still confused about how to achieve it. From ancient times, many things about female sexuality have been misunderstood and many a expert have tried to gauge a woman’s sexual response to try to demystify it. So, what exactly is the truth and what isn’t? Here are the top myths about female orgasms:

Myth: Women can only reach orgasm through vaginal intercourse

Fact: If the sexologists are to be believed, only one in three women tends to achieve orgasm during vaginal intercourse. Others can only reach the Promised Land through either through oral stimulation or by hand or through clitoral stimulation.  What we need to remember is an orgasm is reached at the peak of sexual pleasure and can be achieved in various different ways. It’s also important to remember that achieving an orgasm has nothing to do with a woman’s emotional maturity or mental health.

Myth:  Inability to reach orgasm means that there’s something wrong with the woman or her partner.

Fact: Women who suffer from problems with reaching orgasm could attribute it mostly due to the lack of awareness or the foreplay intensity and duration they want. Rarely, it could also be due to underlying medical conditions. One needs to take this seriously and understand that most of the medical ailments are treatable.

Myth:  Only women tend to fake orgasms.

Fact: Well, even though women have been known since ages to fake orgasm, but this in no way means that men don’t do so. A certain notion would support that women tend to fake orgasm because they want their partner to think that they are satisfied with the act but men too tend to do it because they’re always expected to climax.

Myth: Vibrators can replace men

Fact: Sexual aids, such as vibrators tend to help a lot in upping the sexual performance of a man or a woman, but this in no way means they are a replacement for a male sexual partner. After all, no sexual aid can help in achieving the same level of intimacy and pleasure as being with a man can.

Myth: The goal of sex is to have an orgasm.

Fact: Sex is about the journey, and not about the ‘orgasm destination’. It is all about staying attuned to your partner’s body and enjoying the moment by feeling the sensation of closeness and passion. Please understand that there is no right ‘time’ or ‘way’ to achieve an orgasm.

THE WORLDS FIRST ELECTRIC VIBE

Freud believed that female psychological/health/physical conditions were related to sex, and apparently he was not alone in his belief.

Back in Victorian times, women who complained of symptoms like headaches, anxiety, and/or trouble sleeping were diagnosed as being "hysterical" or "neurotic" by their health care practitioner.

The accepted treatment for such a psychological affliction? A good old-fashioned orgasm.  Yes, that's right. A woman would literally go to her doctor, lift her skirt, drop her panties, and allow her medical professional to fumble around up there until she was able to "release her tension".

One doctor (with a particularly sore arm) decided that these treatment sessions were taking too long when performed using his fingers.  He sought to invent a device that could induce a woman's orgasm much more efficiently and effectively.  As a result, the world's first electric vibrator was born!!

online dating advice for men

ONLINE DATING PROFILES: MISTAKES MEN MAKE THAT DRIVE WOMEN AWAY

 

Online dating websites have quickly become the primary means for single men and women to connect.  These sites enable you to meet people you wouldn't have otherwise met, and experience different facets of a person's personality. As a member of an online dating website I am often messaged by guys who initially I'm attracted to and interested in getting to know.  After I read their profile, however (which all girls will do) they loose all potential due to some common red flags dropped in their bios.  Here's a list of things a guy should NEVER do with their online profiles.

1. The profile bio is supposed to be an accurate representation of WHO YOU ARE, not WHO YOU WANT TO BE.  I notice that many guys will change the information contained in their online bios to specifically fit the needs of some particular girl.  If a girl says she likes a, b, and c, the guy changes his info to say he enjoys a, b, and c.  If a girl says she's looking for a guy in the age range of 30-35, the guy will change his age from 40 to 35, ect, ect, ect.

I commonly get messages from guys who are obviously much older than what their bio info indicates and often they'll admit their true age.

SKYPE SEX TIPS

Technology; some claim that it drives us apart and alienates us from each other. But if you’re one of the millions who are currently in a long-distance relationship, technology is all you have to bridge the gap between you and your lover. Lucky for these people, VoP software like Skype exists, and allows you to go the distance in spite of the distance.

And while getting sensual over Skype can feel a little intimidating or unnatural at first, remind yourself that every experimental pursuit takes some getting used to. Keeping this in mind, here are LELO’s top 5 Skype sex secrets:

Out with the Insecurity
The biggest mistake people make while having Skype sex is dampening the mood by letting their insecurity or inexperience show by saying things like, I don’t know what to do or I’m feeling shy. There’s nothing quite as unsexy as a lack of confidence. If you’re feeling bashful or can’t think of anything sexy to say, here’s a hint: say nothing at all, and let your body do the talking.

Play by the Rules

Skype sex is just that—sex. That means that an arousing buildup of foreplay is just as important as it is during physical intercourse. Of course you need to adjust your tantalizing techniques accordingly (more on that later), but don’t make the experience seem unnatural or chore-like by saying things like Should we start now?  Enjoy a glass of wine together, ask about one another’s day, and fan the flames of desire with a simple physical compliment.

Keep it Real

While no substitute for the real thing, you might surprise yourself with how intense a session of Skype sex could be with a little creativity. Introduce a vibrator to your cyber session and supply him with an arousing visual while you experience some more-than-arousing sensations. Be sure to also use your vibrator to experiment with point-of-view positions and angles and communicate with one another to establish a mutual rhythm and pace.

Know Your Role

Since Skype sex stimulates your imagination, why not take advantage of the opportunity to further explore some role-playing fantasies and fetishes? Before initiating a Skype call you intend to turn frisky, slip on a sexy role play outfit (e.g.—maid or nurse) your man has previously revealed fantasizing about underneath your pajamas or normal day wear. When the timing’s right, slowly reveal your outfit and apologize you can’t be there to pick his jaw up off the floor.

Redefine ‘Homecoming’

Since it’s inevitable that you’ll see one another again, plant a seed of sensual anticipation in his mind that will sprout until your eventual reunion. During Skype sex foreplay, let him know that there’s something else also longing for his arrival. Surprise him by visually introducing him to a remote-controlled couples’ bullet vibrator. Able to be used at a distance of over 100 feet, couples’ bullet vibrators offer an enticing alternative to ‘long-distance’ love-making that leaves nothing to the imagination.While you may be unable to make a physical connection while your partner is away, Skype has shown us that an internet connection provides a kinkier-than-expected alternative to sex while awaiting the return to a lover’s arms.

ADVICE FOR DATING LONG DISTANCE

As the number of opportunistic globetrotters continues to increase, so with it has the commonality of love’s highest hurdle— the long-distance relationship.

Taking a leap of faith is never easy, so we’re here with a list of our top tips for dating from a distance.

Know What You’re Getting Into

First, let’s get some tough love out of the way: it’s not going to be easy, and the sooner you accept this, the better.

Any time two people move apart for a considerable amount of time, the relationship is, for better or worse, never the same upon reunification. New locations mean new experiences, new friends and, as much as we hate to admit it, new people vying for our heart’s desire.

Set Boundaries

Whether you’re departing with a potentially ominous “whatever happens, happens” or he’s popped the question at the airport, it’s important to air out expectations and what-ifs.

For example: Will there be a don’t-ask-don’t-tell deal regarding other people? Should a phone call be expected every night? Furthermore, don’t hold back asking questions because you’re afraid of what the answers might be—it’s better to be a little disappointed now than heartbroken months later.

Plan to Meet Soon

Not making tangible plans to see each other in the near future can put a major strain on the relationship. Even if your romantic rendezvous is months away, the anticipation for your eventual meet up will keep you emotionally in check and give you something to look forward to.

To go the distance in spite of the distance, however, be sure to partake in some technological tantalization with continuous Skype sex, flirtexting and sexting.

Share Communication Responsibilities

Obvious and cliché, we know—but we can’t stress the importance of continued mutualcommunication. Getting in touch with one another is a two-way street on which both partners need to meet halfway.

Live. Your. Life.

Whether you’re the one off to Madrid for grad school, or you’re staying in suburbia to hold down the fort, you need to rely on yourself for your own happiness. We know it’s hard but catch your mind when it begins playingshoulda, coulda, woulda and other fantasy-filled games of illusion. Spend your extra free time and energy on being a better you.

In matters of long-distance love, hearing “what will be will be,” isn’t exactly the most comforting advice. However, as with all things in life, the only person whose actions and emotions we ultimately have control over is always close at hand—ourselves.

GO FROM DATING TO A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP

Many of us have enjoyed a whirlwind romance at one time or another. A no strings attached confidence boost that sends you springing down the street with a big, fat smile on your face!

But not so fast, your plan has backfired, a couple of months have gone by and you’re starting to think that this one might just be a keeper. So what are the best ways to ensure your now not-so-casual fling doesn’t end up being the one that got away?

Play a Cool Hand

So you’ve met someone you like, and you’re pretty sure the feeling is mutual. Now comes the age-old question; what are the two of you going to do about it?

Well at some point you’re going to have to talk about it and we reckon honesty is the best policy all round. Don’t mention the marriage and babies part yet, but laying your cards on the table lets the other person know how you’re feeling and will encourage them to do the same. Just be sure to keep a few aces up your sleeve to keep things interesting later on.

Make a Plan Together

If you’ve gotten yourself into one of those sticky situations where the two of you live at opposite ends of the country – or planet - but you’re determined nonetheless to give things a go, set a time together that you will meet again, preferably before you say your first goodbye.

Organizing a concrete date to reunite gives you both something to look forward to and makes the romance feel more real, which will make it easier to survive the long-distance relationship. Not arranging something makes it all too easy for procrastinations - like work, family or the fact that your goldfish just died - to get in the way, and the whole thing runs the risk of fizzling out.

Don’t Over-think It

Remember, your hopefully soon-to-blossom romance is still just a seedling at this stage, so don’t put too much pressure on yourself. The next time you arrange to meet up, be it the following day or two months down the line, try to do something fun and memorable but don’t try to plan every tiny detail. Relax and let nature take its course.

A ‘whatever happens, happens’ approach – while perhaps both counterintuitive and easier said than done – will soften the disappointment if things don’t go exactly according to plan, while your chilled out, happy-go-lucky attitude will keep the other person guessing.

Some Like it Hot

Depending on how far the relationship went during your original fling, you might want to consider a little sextingto add a naughty twist to things, while those of you who find yourselves slightly further apart could try turning your hand to Skype sex.

Besides being a bit of raunchy fun, Skype sex and sexting show the other person that you are thinking of them, you’re attracted to them and you’re looking forward to the time when you can ditch the screens and get down to a different kind of face time.

MASTER THE ART OF FLIRTING

While the term “flirting” might conjure up thoughts of grade school playgrounds, the truth is, it’s a behavior that we never grow out of. Playful in nature but earnest in intent, a simple flirt can have positively profound, life-changing results.

But let’s not get ahead of ourselves. Instead, let’s review some essential pointers for pulling of a tease with ease.

Smile.

While the seductively smug, aloof woman might entice the Hollywood hunk to make a move in the movies, the opposite attitude attracts men in real life.

While “smile” seems like campy advice, smiling is synonymous with approachability, gregariousness and fun.

According to psychological studies, smiling opens up social connections, enhances first impressions and increases personal and professional possibilities.

Let your eyes do the talking.

Eyes speak louder than words. We often find ourselves in public settings—on trains and planes; in bank lines and restaurants—unable to stop shooting repeated glances at that attractive stranger.

If these looks are periodically returned, take pride in the fact that you’re on that person’s mind between glimpses, and an approach will be warmly welcomed.

Feel things out.

At the beginning stages of flirting, it’s wise to keep your signal-sending ambiguous and low risk, and there’s no better way to test the waters of mutual interest than by exercising your sense of touch.

Beware not to go overboard, however. A simple, seemingly-casual collar adjustment or lean of your shoulder into his body puts the ball of touch in his court.

If he returns your touch, consider it kinesthetically calculated.

Play good ol’ fashioned hard to get.

Diamonds are valuable because they are rare, difficult to attain and have been given a high value by society. These same rules can of course be applied to meeting new partners.

The simple equation here is less available = more desirable. Even if you’re highly interested in someone, remind yourself to maintain a push-pull, one-step-forward-two-steps back approach to maintain your desirability—especially while flirting via text.

Act like the prize that you are.

If only heeding the clichéd ‘ol “just be confident” were that easy. When it comes to confidence, sociologists, successful athletes, politicians and businesspeople recommend a “fake it till you make it” approach using attitude and body language.

Now, this is not to say that you should pretend to be someone else, this technique is based on the theory that confidence will eventually become a natural habit after continuously exuding the characteristics of it (see more on this theory in the video below -- definitely worth a watch!).

Take a look around nature. Every living thing you see—from wild animals to wild people—is a product of the flirting and courtship process.

While fun and playful in nature, flirting is the essential first step toward life’s most fundamental, pleasurable and glorious undertaking, which without, none of us would ever be here (we’re talking about sex!).

THE SUBTLE ART OF SEDUCTION

Seduction: the word itself fills the mind’s eye with images of lust, sensuality and secrecy and when we read about the subject, the voice in our heads speaks in lowered, husky tones. There is something undeniably naughty, risqué and sexy about the whole thing.

Yet, similar to pleasure and pain, seduction and sex are actually two opposites that sit surprisingly close together. Sex being the culmination of desire, seduction the creation of it.

Seduction comes in different forms and because no two people are the same, what seduces one person may not necessarily work on another. There are also different stages, not just all the kinky stuff that goes on during foreplay. Seduction begins long before the two of you enter the bedroom and can start from the moment you first make eye contact.

Mastering the art of flirting is a great way to get things moving, as how are you going to seduce someone if you can’t even crack up a decent conversation? Men and women have different go-to topics when it comes to this but, generally speaking, both appreciate confidence and courtesy over arrogance and attitude.

Taking things slow is also part of the process, as patiently denying someone something they crave or making them desire something they didn’t previously want, helps whip up a lusty frenzy of expectation.

Properly executing the art of seduction can also be the key to turning casual dating into a serious relationship, if that is what you decide to go for. An important part of keeping your partner, or hopefully soon-to-be partner interested is the constant anticipation of what is to come in the future.

And it is this anticipation that is at the very heart of all things seductive. The anticipation of getting to know each other as you work your seductive magic, the anticipation of exploring all the sensual ways you please and tease each other as you spice things up in the bedroom and the kind of anticipation that will leave the two of you on the edge of your senses, never quite sure of what will come next.

If seduction be the food of love, tease on!

HOW IMPORTANT IS A MAN'S MONEY TO A WOMAN?

Recently I was asked, "How important is the amount of money a guy makes to a woman"?

Honestly, as shallow as it sounds, money and appearance are the two most significant factors that contribute to a guy's "sex appeal".  Why? Well, it's not because women are "gold diggers" looking for a free ride, it has a lot more to do with biological predispositions.

Women are biologically predisposed to seek out potential suitors who have a demonstrated ability to lead and provide for the family.  However, these predispositions assume that all other factors are created equal.
As humans, we are much more complex than that and there are a number of other factors that come into play.  For instance, if the woman is particularly successful herself, the amount of money a guy makes might not be all the important to her.  Also, each of us is entitled to have our own preferences.  There may be characteristics a particular guy possesses, such as charm, wit or intelligence, that are of greater importance in the mind of a particular woman.

Aside from biological predispositions, women are more inclined to be attracted to a man who is successful and/or attractive simply because of the confidence it brings him.  Confident guys are sexy guys!
If you're worried that you don't make enough money, it's going to have a psychological impact on the way you assess your self-worth.  Hence you are likely to exude less confidence and thus less "sex appeal" in the mind's of a woman.

Rather than worrying about what you don't have and tearing yourself down, focus on the things you do well and that make you stand out from other guys.  This will, in turn, build your self confidence and make you more "attractive" in the mind of a woman.

With that being said, you should hold SOME type of job that you work hard at, are dedicated to, and are passionate about.  If you don't have that, then no amount of charm, wit, or confidence will compensate for in the long run.

POF GUIDE FOR WOMEN: EVERYTHING YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT ONLINE DATING

WHAT YOU SHOULD KNOW WHEN DATING ONLINE

A GUIDE FOR WOMEN

This guide explains everything a girl should know prior to joining a free dating website, such as Plenty of Fish.  These tips will help reconcile your expectations, steer you clear of a-holes and douche bags, and keep you safe while on and offline!

PRIOR TO JOINING, BE AWARE OF THE FOLLOWING:

YOU WILL BE STALKED ONLINE

Be aware that the photos you include in your profile can (and will) be traced back to any other site that features the same photos. I.e. if any of your POF profile pics are also pics that you've uploaded onto your Facebook page, be aware that it a free Google Image search will quickly link back to your FB page.  You can find out a lot of info about a person through their FB page, depending on your privacy settings.  Even if you have a private account, your first and last name is shown--and thus, more info can be found out.

The odds of a guy running an image search on your POF profile pics to locate you on FB, ect. are pretty much guaranteed.  So be aware of this and extra careful about the pics you choose to use.

 

INCREASED NUMBER OF MEMBERS = DECREASE IN QUALITY

Because POF is free it is the largest online dating site.  With that many members, your chances of running into some quite "undesirable" characters are significant--if not completely guaranteed.  Having so many members can make it more difficult to locate that someone special on the site.  Why? Because oftentimes your inbox is crammed with so many emails from guys you're either not interested in, or who are interested in you for the wrong reasons.  It makes sorting through all those emails- to locate the ones who are from guys who peak your interest- extremely time consuming, if not arduous.

 

INTENTIONS OF MEMBERS

Most guys tend to use the site as a way to secure booty, rather than a relationship
Free online dating sites tend to be a vehicle many guys use as their personal black book.  Realize that most of the guys on the site are not intending to meet someone to date, but rather someone to sleep with.

 

 

NEVER ASSUME HIS ONLINE PROFILE TO BE AN ACCURATE REPRESENTATION OF WHO THE GUY IS

Guys are just as likely to lie about their age on these sites and provide false information about their profession, background, intentions, and current relationship status (!). If his intention is to find girls to sleep with, of course he's going to make a concerted effort to come across as charming, sensitive, and sincere in his profile page and messages to female members.

 

DICK PICS GALORE

Prepare your mind and eyeballs to see a WHOLE LOT of these types of pics:

 

 

 

BEFORE GOING ON A DATE WITH ANYBODY FROM POF, CONDUCT YOUR RESEARCH!!!

GOOGLE IMAGES: INSTRUCTIONS

Right click on each of his POF profile pics and save each to your computer.

Go to images.google.com

Click the camera icon located in the search box and upload the pics of him you saved to your computer.

Hit search

The search will provide you with a list of links to other websites where that same pic of him can be located.  This seriously works gold.  Recently I used this on a guy from POF who contacted me to hang out.  I was shocked at the results--to say the least!  Turns out he was married.

 

CHEATERVILLE.COM

Cheatersville.com is the #1 online dating resource in the country!  The site is essentially an online registry of cheaters who use online dating as a means to screw around on their wife or girlfriend. Use the site to report a guy who's either cheated on you, or is/has cheated on their wife or girlfriend with you.

You can also conduct a search of Cheaterville's registry using a person's first and last name, as well as the city the live in.  Use it to find out whether a particular guy has had any complaints lodged against him in the past.

The particular guy I was speaking before of--the one who was married--had 13 complaints filed from women he met on POF.  THIRTEEN!!!

To search for a suspected cheater, use the information you were able to obtain during the Google Image search.  Most likely you were linked back to his FB page which provided you with his full name and location. Never rely on the name he provided you with.  Any guy who's used to doing this type of thing is a well-seasoned pro and knows better than openly offer you his real name or identity (especially when married!!).

ONLINE SAFETY PRECAUTIONS

Be Web Wise
Be wary of communications that ask you to act immediately, offer something that sounds too good to be true, or asks for personal information. There are certain red flags to watch for that may indicate you're dealing with a scammer. Be aware of anyone who…

• Quickly asks to talk or chat on an outside email or messaging service


• Claims to be from U.S. but currently traveling, living or working abroad


• Asks you for money


• Vanishes mysteriously from the site, then reappears under a different name


• Talks about "destiny" or "fate"


• Claims to be recently widowed


• Asks for your address under the guise of sending flowers or gifts


• Makes an inordinate amount of grammar and/or spelling errors


• Sends you emails containing strange links to third-party websites

The U.S. Federal Trade Commission's advice to avoid online romance scams is available here: http://onguardonline.gov/articles/0004-online-dating-scams

Be cautious and use common sense. If personal details provided by another person don't seem to add up, they behave suspiciously or pressure you for personal or financial information – block communications with that person and report them to us immediately.

Block and report suspicious users
You can block and report concerns about any suspicious user anonymously from any profile page, email or IM window.

OFFLINE SAFETY PRECAUTIONS

First meetings are exciting, however, always take precautions and use the following guidelines:

Get to know the other person before meeting them offline
Use the technology on Match.com that protects your anonymity to get to know someone before disclosing personal information or meeting in person. We don't conduct criminal background checks on our users, so if you would like more information about someone, we recommend using the Internet and government resources available to everyone. This can include typing the person's name into a search engine, reviewing public information made available by government offices, or using a paid service to obtain a full background report.

Always meet in public
Meet for the first time in a populated, public location – never in a private or remote location, and never at your date's home or apartment.

Stay in a public place
It is best not to go back to your date's home or bring them back to yours on the first date.  If your date pressures you, end the date and leave at once.

Tell a friend
Inform a friend or family member of your plans and when and where you're going.  If you own a mobile phone, make sure you have it with you.

Stay sober
Keep a clear mind and avoid doing anything that would impair your judgment and cause you to make a decision you could regret.

Drive yourself to and from the first meeting
Just in case things don't work out, you need to be in control of your own ride – even if you take a taxi.

Keep personal items with you at all times
You don't want to risk having personal information stolen.  If you're drinking, keep your drink with you at all times so it can't be tampered with.

Long Distance Meetings
Long distance meetings pose special safety concerns to take into account. Keep these tips in mind.

• Stay in a hotel. Check into your own room and avoid staying in the other person's home. If you can't afford a hotel, you shouldn't go.


• Use a taxi or rental car to get to and from the airport. Securing your own ride is important. Even if the person you're meeting volunteers to pick you up from the airport, do not get into a personal vehicle with someone you've never met.


• Keep your hotel location confidential. The person you're meeting should respect your privacy until you know each other.


• Remember to keep your family and friends posted. Tell someone who you are meeting, where you are going and when you will return.

 

REMEMBER: YOUR SAFETY IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN ANOTHER PERSONS FEELINGS

IF HE'S BEING RUDE, DISRESPECTFUL, INAPPROPRIATE, OR MAKING YOU FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE IN ANY WAY--LEAVE!!  DO NOT worry about being rude or hurting his feelings.  DO NOT feel obligated to offer him an explanation.  It was his behavior that got you there to begin with, so don't feel bad or apologetic.  Simply tell the guy you need to excuse yourself to go to the ladies room, grab your purse, and walk out the door.  NEVER second guess your gut instinct!!!! I've had to do this a few times myself, and have yet to regret it!

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THE ULTIMATE GUIDE TO KISSING: How To Kiss Her Right The First Time

THE ULTIMATE GUIDE TO KISSING:

HOW TO KISS HER RIGHT

 

Whether you’re new to the game, or a veteran looking for pointers….

Following this guide will greatly increase your chances of scoring a second one!

 

Every romantic relationship begins with a first kiss.  To a girl, this kiss can either confirm the existence of chemistry or negate it completely.  Moreover, the way a guy goes about it is known to directly correlate to the type of lover he is in the bedroom.  The better the kisser, the better the lover.

This can put a lot of pressure on a guy, understandably so.  But no worries, fellas, I’ve got you completely covered in this guide.  It will provide you with everything you need to know about how to go about the first kiss.  Whether you’re new to the game, or a veteran in need of pointers, following these tips will greatly increase your chances of scoring a second one!

PHASE 1: GAUGE HER BODY LANGUAGE



PHASE 1: GAUGE HER BODY LANGUAGE

Even in our modern-day society, psychologically speaking, women are biologically predisposed to be attracted to a man who can take control.  Being able to demonstrate that you know what you want and are confident enough to go after it is very sexy to a woman.  HOWEVER, it is EXTREMELY important for a guy to be able read and understand a girl’s body language prior to doing so.

With that being said, however, it is equally as important for a guy to demonstrate his ability to read and understand a girl’s body language.  For example if her body language is saying no, and you go in for that kiss anyway, it will completely turn her off.  Why? Because by doing so, you basically tell her you are completely inexperienced, desperate, and/or creepy.

Therefore, before even thinking about setting the stage for a kiss, carefully note her body language.  For example, following a date when the two of you are saying goodbye, a girl who doesn’t want to be kissed is going to be either looking down or away a lot, and/or doing something else, like going through her purse to find her keys or phone, to try distract you from making a move.  If the two of you hug goodbye, she is going to do so using one arm with her head facing the opposite direction and body her leaning away from yours.

THE "FRIENDS" CAVEAT



In cases where the two of you are friends and she’s trying to let you down easy but still show her appreciation for the date, her “not interested” body language might not be so obvious.  In such cases, wait for her to make the first move.

I mentioned before that women are predisposed to be attracted to a man who’s powerful and dominant. But these assumptions are most appropriately applied conceptually, with all other factors being equal.  Meaning, humans are incredibly complex creatures and several factors can attribute to what each individual considers “attractive”.  Sure, statistical inferences can be made, but there generalizations are simply that—generalizations.  Often, the more you get to know a person the less psychological bias often come into play.

Females are very much aware of the sexual power we hold over women.  As a result, we’re often even more inclined to make the first move on a guy we’re interested in kissing.



 PHASE 2: SETTING THE STATE



Given the above doesn’t apply and you’re with a girl who’s displaying open “interested” body language, set the stage for the kiss.  But be smooth about the way you go about it.  Most guys will just go for it without bothering to do the leg work. The ones who stand apart are the ones who show how good they are at doing it.  Your ability to go about it successfully will determine how far you’ll be able to get with this girl romantically and yes, sexually.

PHASE 2: SET THE STAGE

When the moment is right and the two of you are alone talking, put out your hands to grasp hers then pull her close to you.  Then linger there for a moment or so, with her body pressed against yours and wrap your arms around her lower waist.  Take your time and don’t rush through it.  The longer you draw it out, the more anticipation it’s going to build with her.  The more anticipation built, the greater the “pay out”.  Continue to talk to her like normal.  This will prevent any awkward moments of silence from creeping in and/or you saying something cheesy like “you’re hair smells really good—what is that—apple”?

PHASE 3: THE KISS

PHASE 3: THE KISS

Draw her completely in so that you’re holding her.  Begin to lightly tousle and play with her hair—this feels soooooooo good.  Then take one hand and lightly brush the hair off one of her shoulders.  Reposition your hands back around her lower waist and hold her close. Position your mouth toward the back of her neck, allowing her to feel the warmth of your breath.  Gently kiss her neck, allowing your lips to linger momentarily.  Kiss her again, but allow your lips to linger longer this time.  With each kiss you should be inching your lips towards hers.  If you do it right, you will notice her getting more and more caught up in the moment.

Before kissing her lips, take your hands and place them softly on each side of her head.  Move your mouth towards her and give her a slow, gentle kiss.  Then kiss her again, this time taking her bottom lip into your mouth and sucking/biting on it GENTLY.  Kiss her again, this time opening your mouth and allowing your tongues to touch gently and slowly.

KISSING DO'S

KISSING DO’S

FRESH breath—so pack gum!

Smell nice—so wear cologne!

Use a moderately stiff tongue—meaning, when you kiss, your tongue should not be too stiff or too soft.

Open your mouth about half way for open mouthed kisses—never too little as to prevent her tongue from entering your mouth, nor so much that she feels as though you’re preparing to unhinge your jaw and shallow her whole.

Use variation!!  A good kisser uses a variety of kissing techniques—not just one.  Alternate between closed mouth kisses, open mouthed kisses, and closed mouthed kisses where you draw her upper or lower lip into your mouth and gently suck/bite on it.

KISSING DONT'S

KISSING DONT'S

Lean in for kiss without fresh breath!


Dart your tongue in and out of her mouth (like a lizard),

Keep your mouth open throughout the entire kiss.  Your kiss should actually encompass a variety of kissing techniques.  Alternate between using closed mouthed kisses, open mouthed kisses, and closed mouth kisses where you draw their lower or upper lip into your mouth and suck/bite on it.

Increase your speed/aggressiveness the more you get into it.  Yes, kisses should get increasingly passionate but not to the extent that it compromises good technique.  If the speed/ pace you’re going at is working for the girl—don’t change it!!  No matter how excited you get!!

Keep your eyes open the entire time.  Yes, I understand guys are highly visual people, but what exactly are you trying to see considering my head is completely obstructing your view?  Guys enjoy seeing the eyes close of a girl he’s kissing because it tells him that she’s into it—girls want to know the same!  I’m not saying you can’t open your eyes at all, just don’t keep them open for the majority of the time.  Guys who don’t shut their eyes when they kiss are known to be highly untrustworthy. 

NEVER “decide” for the girl that she’s going to kiss you.  I.e. if you believe the moment is right but the girl is displaying “not interested” body language and won’t stop looking away from you, DO NOT grab her head and physically turn her face towards yours so you can go in for the kill.  I’ve had this happen several times.  Even thinking about it as I write this makes me slightly nauseous.

WHAT TO DO IF YOU STRIKE OUT

STRIKING OUT

If at any point during this process, she gets uncomfortable and turns her head or increases the distance between the two of you, whatever you do, don’t act upset or frustrated!!  If you handle the rejection appropriately, it will show what a strong, confident man you are.

Confidence is key to attraction!!  If you show her that the rejection didn’t bother you, or make you upset or frustrated with her, it will actually improve your chances of getting further with her in the future should the opportunity arise!

By showing her that you’re strong enough to handle being turned down, all she’s going to think about when she goes in for the night is how cool you were to hang out with, how confident of a guy you are, and how good it physically felt to have you do what you were doing to her.  It will peak her curiosity and make her think of you in, perhaps, a different way than she did before. Most guys don’t know how to go in for that first kiss correctly.  The ones who do are always known to be the best lovers—as are those who are confident enough to handle rejection.

IT’S BETTER TO NOT KISS HER AT ALL THAN TO KISS HER WHEN SHE DOESN'T WANT IT.  Doing the former will preserve your chances of ever winning her over, while the later will only guarantee that you’ll likely never see her again.