HOW IMPORTANT IS A MAN'S MONEY TO A WOMAN?

Recently I was asked, "How important is the amount of money a guy makes to a woman"?

Honestly, as shallow as it sounds, money and appearance are the two most significant factors that contribute to a guy's "sex appeal".  Why? Well, it's not because women are "gold diggers" looking for a free ride, it has a lot more to do with biological predispositions.

Women are biologically predisposed to seek out potential suitors who have a demonstrated ability to lead and provide for the family.  However, these predispositions assume that all other factors are created equal.
As humans, we are much more complex than that and there are a number of other factors that come into play.  For instance, if the woman is particularly successful herself, the amount of money a guy makes might not be all the important to her.  Also, each of us is entitled to have our own preferences.  There may be characteristics a particular guy possesses, such as charm, wit or intelligence, that are of greater importance in the mind of a particular woman.

Aside from biological predispositions, women are more inclined to be attracted to a man who is successful and/or attractive simply because of the confidence it brings him.  Confident guys are sexy guys!
If you're worried that you don't make enough money, it's going to have a psychological impact on the way you assess your self-worth.  Hence you are likely to exude less confidence and thus less "sex appeal" in the mind's of a woman.

Rather than worrying about what you don't have and tearing yourself down, focus on the things you do well and that make you stand out from other guys.  This will, in turn, build your self confidence and make you more "attractive" in the mind of a woman.

With that being said, you should hold SOME type of job that you work hard at, are dedicated to, and are passionate about.  If you don't have that, then no amount of charm, wit, or confidence will compensate for in the long run.

POF GUIDE FOR WOMEN: EVERYTHING YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT ONLINE DATING

WHAT YOU SHOULD KNOW WHEN DATING ONLINE

A GUIDE FOR WOMEN

This guide explains everything a girl should know prior to joining a free dating website, such as Plenty of Fish.  These tips will help reconcile your expectations, steer you clear of a-holes and douche bags, and keep you safe while on and offline!

PRIOR TO JOINING, BE AWARE OF THE FOLLOWING:

YOU WILL BE STALKED ONLINE

Be aware that the photos you include in your profile can (and will) be traced back to any other site that features the same photos. I.e. if any of your POF profile pics are also pics that you've uploaded onto your Facebook page, be aware that it a free Google Image search will quickly link back to your FB page.  You can find out a lot of info about a person through their FB page, depending on your privacy settings.  Even if you have a private account, your first and last name is shown--and thus, more info can be found out.

The odds of a guy running an image search on your POF profile pics to locate you on FB, ect. are pretty much guaranteed.  So be aware of this and extra careful about the pics you choose to use.

 

INCREASED NUMBER OF MEMBERS = DECREASE IN QUALITY

Because POF is free it is the largest online dating site.  With that many members, your chances of running into some quite "undesirable" characters are significant--if not completely guaranteed.  Having so many members can make it more difficult to locate that someone special on the site.  Why? Because oftentimes your inbox is crammed with so many emails from guys you're either not interested in, or who are interested in you for the wrong reasons.  It makes sorting through all those emails- to locate the ones who are from guys who peak your interest- extremely time consuming, if not arduous.

 

INTENTIONS OF MEMBERS

Most guys tend to use the site as a way to secure booty, rather than a relationship
Free online dating sites tend to be a vehicle many guys use as their personal black book.  Realize that most of the guys on the site are not intending to meet someone to date, but rather someone to sleep with.

 

 

NEVER ASSUME HIS ONLINE PROFILE TO BE AN ACCURATE REPRESENTATION OF WHO THE GUY IS

Guys are just as likely to lie about their age on these sites and provide false information about their profession, background, intentions, and current relationship status (!). If his intention is to find girls to sleep with, of course he's going to make a concerted effort to come across as charming, sensitive, and sincere in his profile page and messages to female members.

 

DICK PICS GALORE

Prepare your mind and eyeballs to see a WHOLE LOT of these types of pics:

 

 

 

BEFORE GOING ON A DATE WITH ANYBODY FROM POF, CONDUCT YOUR RESEARCH!!!

GOOGLE IMAGES: INSTRUCTIONS

Right click on each of his POF profile pics and save each to your computer.

Go to images.google.com

Click the camera icon located in the search box and upload the pics of him you saved to your computer.

Hit search

The search will provide you with a list of links to other websites where that same pic of him can be located.  This seriously works gold.  Recently I used this on a guy from POF who contacted me to hang out.  I was shocked at the results--to say the least!  Turns out he was married.

 

CHEATERVILLE.COM

Cheatersville.com is the #1 online dating resource in the country!  The site is essentially an online registry of cheaters who use online dating as a means to screw around on their wife or girlfriend. Use the site to report a guy who's either cheated on you, or is/has cheated on their wife or girlfriend with you.

You can also conduct a search of Cheaterville's registry using a person's first and last name, as well as the city the live in.  Use it to find out whether a particular guy has had any complaints lodged against him in the past.

The particular guy I was speaking before of--the one who was married--had 13 complaints filed from women he met on POF.  THIRTEEN!!!

To search for a suspected cheater, use the information you were able to obtain during the Google Image search.  Most likely you were linked back to his FB page which provided you with his full name and location. Never rely on the name he provided you with.  Any guy who's used to doing this type of thing is a well-seasoned pro and knows better than openly offer you his real name or identity (especially when married!!).

ONLINE SAFETY PRECAUTIONS

Be Web Wise
Be wary of communications that ask you to act immediately, offer something that sounds too good to be true, or asks for personal information. There are certain red flags to watch for that may indicate you're dealing with a scammer. Be aware of anyone who…

• Quickly asks to talk or chat on an outside email or messaging service


• Claims to be from U.S. but currently traveling, living or working abroad


• Asks you for money


• Vanishes mysteriously from the site, then reappears under a different name


• Talks about "destiny" or "fate"


• Claims to be recently widowed


• Asks for your address under the guise of sending flowers or gifts


• Makes an inordinate amount of grammar and/or spelling errors


• Sends you emails containing strange links to third-party websites

The U.S. Federal Trade Commission's advice to avoid online romance scams is available here: http://onguardonline.gov/articles/0004-online-dating-scams

Be cautious and use common sense. If personal details provided by another person don't seem to add up, they behave suspiciously or pressure you for personal or financial information – block communications with that person and report them to us immediately.

Block and report suspicious users
You can block and report concerns about any suspicious user anonymously from any profile page, email or IM window.

OFFLINE SAFETY PRECAUTIONS

First meetings are exciting, however, always take precautions and use the following guidelines:

Get to know the other person before meeting them offline
Use the technology on Match.com that protects your anonymity to get to know someone before disclosing personal information or meeting in person. We don't conduct criminal background checks on our users, so if you would like more information about someone, we recommend using the Internet and government resources available to everyone. This can include typing the person's name into a search engine, reviewing public information made available by government offices, or using a paid service to obtain a full background report.

Always meet in public
Meet for the first time in a populated, public location – never in a private or remote location, and never at your date's home or apartment.

Stay in a public place
It is best not to go back to your date's home or bring them back to yours on the first date.  If your date pressures you, end the date and leave at once.

Tell a friend
Inform a friend or family member of your plans and when and where you're going.  If you own a mobile phone, make sure you have it with you.

Stay sober
Keep a clear mind and avoid doing anything that would impair your judgment and cause you to make a decision you could regret.

Drive yourself to and from the first meeting
Just in case things don't work out, you need to be in control of your own ride – even if you take a taxi.

Keep personal items with you at all times
You don't want to risk having personal information stolen.  If you're drinking, keep your drink with you at all times so it can't be tampered with.

Long Distance Meetings
Long distance meetings pose special safety concerns to take into account. Keep these tips in mind.

• Stay in a hotel. Check into your own room and avoid staying in the other person's home. If you can't afford a hotel, you shouldn't go.


• Use a taxi or rental car to get to and from the airport. Securing your own ride is important. Even if the person you're meeting volunteers to pick you up from the airport, do not get into a personal vehicle with someone you've never met.


• Keep your hotel location confidential. The person you're meeting should respect your privacy until you know each other.


• Remember to keep your family and friends posted. Tell someone who you are meeting, where you are going and when you will return.

 

REMEMBER: YOUR SAFETY IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN ANOTHER PERSONS FEELINGS

IF HE'S BEING RUDE, DISRESPECTFUL, INAPPROPRIATE, OR MAKING YOU FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE IN ANY WAY--LEAVE!!  DO NOT worry about being rude or hurting his feelings.  DO NOT feel obligated to offer him an explanation.  It was his behavior that got you there to begin with, so don't feel bad or apologetic.  Simply tell the guy you need to excuse yourself to go to the ladies room, grab your purse, and walk out the door.  NEVER second guess your gut instinct!!!! I've had to do this a few times myself, and have yet to regret it!

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THE ULTIMATE GUIDE TO KISSING: How To Kiss Her Right The First Time

THE ULTIMATE GUIDE TO KISSING:

HOW TO KISS HER RIGHT

 

Whether you’re new to the game, or a veteran looking for pointers….

Following this guide will greatly increase your chances of scoring a second one!

 

Every romantic relationship begins with a first kiss.  To a girl, this kiss can either confirm the existence of chemistry or negate it completely.  Moreover, the way a guy goes about it is known to directly correlate to the type of lover he is in the bedroom.  The better the kisser, the better the lover.

This can put a lot of pressure on a guy, understandably so.  But no worries, fellas, I’ve got you completely covered in this guide.  It will provide you with everything you need to know about how to go about the first kiss.  Whether you’re new to the game, or a veteran in need of pointers, following these tips will greatly increase your chances of scoring a second one!

PHASE 1: GAUGE HER BODY LANGUAGE



PHASE 1: GAUGE HER BODY LANGUAGE

Even in our modern-day society, psychologically speaking, women are biologically predisposed to be attracted to a man who can take control.  Being able to demonstrate that you know what you want and are confident enough to go after it is very sexy to a woman.  HOWEVER, it is EXTREMELY important for a guy to be able read and understand a girl’s body language prior to doing so.

With that being said, however, it is equally as important for a guy to demonstrate his ability to read and understand a girl’s body language.  For example if her body language is saying no, and you go in for that kiss anyway, it will completely turn her off.  Why? Because by doing so, you basically tell her you are completely inexperienced, desperate, and/or creepy.

Therefore, before even thinking about setting the stage for a kiss, carefully note her body language.  For example, following a date when the two of you are saying goodbye, a girl who doesn’t want to be kissed is going to be either looking down or away a lot, and/or doing something else, like going through her purse to find her keys or phone, to try distract you from making a move.  If the two of you hug goodbye, she is going to do so using one arm with her head facing the opposite direction and body her leaning away from yours.

THE "FRIENDS" CAVEAT



In cases where the two of you are friends and she’s trying to let you down easy but still show her appreciation for the date, her “not interested” body language might not be so obvious.  In such cases, wait for her to make the first move.

I mentioned before that women are predisposed to be attracted to a man who’s powerful and dominant. But these assumptions are most appropriately applied conceptually, with all other factors being equal.  Meaning, humans are incredibly complex creatures and several factors can attribute to what each individual considers “attractive”.  Sure, statistical inferences can be made, but there generalizations are simply that—generalizations.  Often, the more you get to know a person the less psychological bias often come into play.

Females are very much aware of the sexual power we hold over women.  As a result, we’re often even more inclined to make the first move on a guy we’re interested in kissing.



 PHASE 2: SETTING THE STATE



Given the above doesn’t apply and you’re with a girl who’s displaying open “interested” body language, set the stage for the kiss.  But be smooth about the way you go about it.  Most guys will just go for it without bothering to do the leg work. The ones who stand apart are the ones who show how good they are at doing it.  Your ability to go about it successfully will determine how far you’ll be able to get with this girl romantically and yes, sexually.

PHASE 2: SET THE STAGE

When the moment is right and the two of you are alone talking, put out your hands to grasp hers then pull her close to you.  Then linger there for a moment or so, with her body pressed against yours and wrap your arms around her lower waist.  Take your time and don’t rush through it.  The longer you draw it out, the more anticipation it’s going to build with her.  The more anticipation built, the greater the “pay out”.  Continue to talk to her like normal.  This will prevent any awkward moments of silence from creeping in and/or you saying something cheesy like “you’re hair smells really good—what is that—apple”?

PHASE 3: THE KISS

PHASE 3: THE KISS

Draw her completely in so that you’re holding her.  Begin to lightly tousle and play with her hair—this feels soooooooo good.  Then take one hand and lightly brush the hair off one of her shoulders.  Reposition your hands back around her lower waist and hold her close. Position your mouth toward the back of her neck, allowing her to feel the warmth of your breath.  Gently kiss her neck, allowing your lips to linger momentarily.  Kiss her again, but allow your lips to linger longer this time.  With each kiss you should be inching your lips towards hers.  If you do it right, you will notice her getting more and more caught up in the moment.

Before kissing her lips, take your hands and place them softly on each side of her head.  Move your mouth towards her and give her a slow, gentle kiss.  Then kiss her again, this time taking her bottom lip into your mouth and sucking/biting on it GENTLY.  Kiss her again, this time opening your mouth and allowing your tongues to touch gently and slowly.

KISSING DO'S

KISSING DO’S

FRESH breath—so pack gum!

Smell nice—so wear cologne!

Use a moderately stiff tongue—meaning, when you kiss, your tongue should not be too stiff or too soft.

Open your mouth about half way for open mouthed kisses—never too little as to prevent her tongue from entering your mouth, nor so much that she feels as though you’re preparing to unhinge your jaw and shallow her whole.

Use variation!!  A good kisser uses a variety of kissing techniques—not just one.  Alternate between closed mouth kisses, open mouthed kisses, and closed mouthed kisses where you draw her upper or lower lip into your mouth and gently suck/bite on it.

KISSING DONT'S

KISSING DONT'S

Lean in for kiss without fresh breath!


Dart your tongue in and out of her mouth (like a lizard),

Keep your mouth open throughout the entire kiss.  Your kiss should actually encompass a variety of kissing techniques.  Alternate between using closed mouthed kisses, open mouthed kisses, and closed mouth kisses where you draw their lower or upper lip into your mouth and suck/bite on it.

Increase your speed/aggressiveness the more you get into it.  Yes, kisses should get increasingly passionate but not to the extent that it compromises good technique.  If the speed/ pace you’re going at is working for the girl—don’t change it!!  No matter how excited you get!!

Keep your eyes open the entire time.  Yes, I understand guys are highly visual people, but what exactly are you trying to see considering my head is completely obstructing your view?  Guys enjoy seeing the eyes close of a girl he’s kissing because it tells him that she’s into it—girls want to know the same!  I’m not saying you can’t open your eyes at all, just don’t keep them open for the majority of the time.  Guys who don’t shut their eyes when they kiss are known to be highly untrustworthy. 

NEVER “decide” for the girl that she’s going to kiss you.  I.e. if you believe the moment is right but the girl is displaying “not interested” body language and won’t stop looking away from you, DO NOT grab her head and physically turn her face towards yours so you can go in for the kill.  I’ve had this happen several times.  Even thinking about it as I write this makes me slightly nauseous.

WHAT TO DO IF YOU STRIKE OUT

STRIKING OUT

If at any point during this process, she gets uncomfortable and turns her head or increases the distance between the two of you, whatever you do, don’t act upset or frustrated!!  If you handle the rejection appropriately, it will show what a strong, confident man you are.

Confidence is key to attraction!!  If you show her that the rejection didn’t bother you, or make you upset or frustrated with her, it will actually improve your chances of getting further with her in the future should the opportunity arise!

By showing her that you’re strong enough to handle being turned down, all she’s going to think about when she goes in for the night is how cool you were to hang out with, how confident of a guy you are, and how good it physically felt to have you do what you were doing to her.  It will peak her curiosity and make her think of you in, perhaps, a different way than she did before. Most guys don’t know how to go in for that first kiss correctly.  The ones who do are always known to be the best lovers—as are those who are confident enough to handle rejection.

IT’S BETTER TO NOT KISS HER AT ALL THAN TO KISS HER WHEN SHE DOESN'T WANT IT.  Doing the former will preserve your chances of ever winning her over, while the later will only guarantee that you’ll likely never see her again.

POF CHEATERS

DO YOU KNOW THIS MAN:

If so....BACK AWAY FROM THE PENIS!!!

Since I so openly give advice about dating online, particular with regards to Plenty of Fish, I've decided to dedicate a section on my site to outing AZ guys who are use the site to cheat on their girlfriends and wives.

Doing some research for todays post about cheating, I came across this site, http://cheatersville.com.  The site is dedicated to posting detailed information about known cheaters, including pictures and uploaded proof of their nefarious misdeeds.

When I clicked into the site, I was surprised (and somewhat humored) to see this dude listed on the very top of the very first page!!  It immediately made me laugh, because I, myself, received a message from this very same guy on POF just a few days ago! He was telling me all this personal information he knew about me and it really creeped me out, so I told him to f-off.

Must have really dodged a bullet on that one because the site has complaints about this guy from 13 different women!!!!  THIRTEEN!





Sorry bro....tough break on that one!  Next time just keep your dick to yourself!  By all accounts, no one appreciates it NEARLY as much as you do!

 

 

IS YOUR SPOUSE OR PARTNER CHEATING ON YOU? HERE'S HOW TO TELL

10 QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF IF YOU SUSPECT INFIDELITY IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Do you suspect that your partner is cheating on you?  If so, you may be looking for confirmation.  Before taking drastic measures, like hiring a PI or tapping her cell phone, simply ask yourself the following questions:

Has there been a change in his or her physical appearance?

Men and women who cheat often want to impress or entice the individual they are having inappropriate relations with.  When doing so, they often change or improve their appearance.  If your girlfriend or boyfriend starts paying more attention to their weight or buys new clothes, they may be having an affair.

Do you communicate less?

Until you recently started noticing a problem, how was your communication with your partner?  If they have recently stopped talking to you or distanced themselves from you at home, there is a good chance that they may be cheating on you.  This is because they may be afraid of making a mistake and talking about their affair or they may already be discussing their problems with someone else.

Does he or she constantly work late?

Depending on your spouse and his or her career, they really may have to work late.  With that said, be on the lookout for changes and use your best judgment.  Has your girlfriend or boyfriend all of a sudden started working late?  In terms of using your best judgment, know what careers often call for late nights, such as lawyers, doctors, and so forth.

Is he or she constantly out with their friends?

Spending time with friends does not always signal a cheater.  In fact, healthy relationships also depend on healthy outside friendships. With that said, be sure to use your best judgment.  Look for the appearance of new friends or an increased amount of time.  Has your partner gone from spending one night a week with friends to three or more?

Do you have trouble tracking him or her down?

When you are in a long-term or serious relationship there is never really any reason why you shouldn’t know where your girlfriend or boyfriend is, especially late at night or for long periods of time.  If you do not know, chances are he or she is cheating.  When they arrive home, they better have a good reason for being late or not letting you know where they were.

Have you heard rumors?

Many men and women are not careful about cheating. This often involves them telling someone or someone seeing them out on a date.  In these types of situations, people often talk.  Listen to what you hear.  If people are telling you that your partner is cheating, it might be time to start listening.

Are the two of you having sex?

Has your relationship recently become sex-free or has the sex that you do have decreased in intensity and in frequency.  If so, there is a good chance that your girlfriend or boyfriend is cheating on you.  Men and women who get sex elsewhere don’t always need to have it again when they return home.

Is he or she accusing you of cheating?

In today’s society, cheating is a major concern.  If your partner accuses you of cheating, have you been displaying behavior that may lead them to that conclusion?  If you haven’t, there is a good chance that they are accusing you of cheating to make themselves feel less guilty.

Does the phrase “we’re just friends” come up a lot when discussing a third person?

The “just friends,” phrase is a big sign of a cheater.  As with all other friendships, it is important to use your best judgment.  If the friend of the opposite sex and are they are a newly acquired friend?  If so, something may be up.

Do you have a bad feeling?

Bad feelings are not something that should be easily dismissed.  If you have reason to believe that your husband or wife is cheating, they may be.  If you do not want to be in a relationship with a cheater, it is important for you to follow your heart.

 

HE MIGHT BE A DOUCHE BAG IF...

 

Here are some sure-fire ways of telling whether the guy you're dating MIGHT BE A DOUCHE BAG:

 

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1.  He won't date a girl his own age

Men who base a woman's value on her age are typically lacking in terms of maturity, self-esteem, romance, and/or social likeability.  These types of guys tend to be attractive and/or financially successful.  Due to the failures in all other areas of his life, he places a greater emphasis on the importance of his physical attractiveness and financial successes and over estimate the role these characteristics play in attracting members of the opposite sex.

For more information on what qualities determine a guy's attractiveness or appeal to women, click here!

2.  He constantly checks out other women when the two of you are together

Douche bags never pass on the opportunity to fully check out any slightly attractive woman in order to make the girl they're with feel insecure and inadequate.  They know the more they do this, the worse the woman will feel, and the greater the upper hand and control he will have over her.  Click here to read more!

3.  He only talks about himself

Douche bags believe no one in the world is more important than them.  They are only interested in the happenings of their own life and don't want to hear or discuss the details of yours.  When you do try to share your opinion or experiences, you'll find the topic quickly changes back to him and his opinion and/or experiences.

4.  He constantly gets into fights

Douche bags are highly threatened by other men and feel compelled to demonstrate their own perceived superiority through physical violence.  They are highly possessive and threaten to beat up any guy they catch talking to "their" girl.  Douche bags commonly get thrown out of clubs and bars for fighting or starting trouble.

5.  He doesn't have a lot of friends or all his friends are douche bags

Douche bags don't have many friends, maybe 1 or 2 they regularly talk to.  These friends are also likely to be douche bags, and the friendship they share is superficial in nature.

6.  He refuses to take you for a drink on your first date, and instead invites you for ice cream or the like.  

This guy is likely to either be a recovering alcoholic, broke/cheap, so arrogant he feels that showing up and paying for the $2.38 cone is sufficient enough to impress any girl, or takes so many girls out he can no longer afford to take them somewhere more appropriate.

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WHAT WOMEN WANT IN BED

BE THE BEST LOVER SHE'S EVER HAD

6 SINFULLY SEDUCTIVE MOVES GUARANTEED TO BRING IT HOME

1.  TAKE YOUR TIME

For women, it's all about the build up.  The longer you draw out foreplay, the more it will drive her crazy.  Guys tend to want to run from first base to home all within the same play.  This can make the experience less than lackluster for the woman!!  The key is to keep her guessing what your next move will be.  The more you're able to throw her off by mixing things up, the more thrilling the experience will be for both of you!

2.  TAKE A BITE


Incorporate slow seductive styles of kissing and touching with moves that are raw and unadulterated.  Kiss her slowly and gently on the gape of her neck, breathing heavily on her skin.  Pause, then follow it up by firmly biting her on the base of her neck and shoulder.  Don't bite too hard, of course--this isn't 'Twilight'.  Continue to switch up your styles, drawing out the foreplay.

3.  TUG ON HER HAIR

It can be SUPER sexy to have your hair pulled...but you have to know how to do it right.  (Yes, there is a right way!).  When making out, slide you hand up her back and neck.  Grab a large handful of hair from the bottom of her head, close to the roots.  Lightly tighten your grip on the hair, giving it a tug.  If she get's excited by the move, increase your grip slowly.

4.  MAKE SOME NOISE

Guys love hearing the moans and heavy breathing of their partners when making love, and so do women!!  We want to know what you like, and what you especially like, and heavy breathing/moaning is the best way to communicate what your lover is doing well.

5.  GIVE GREAT ORAL

The surest way to give a woman an orgasm is through oral sex--good oral sex! In fact, most women can only be brought to orgasm by oral sex, so make sure you're doing it right!  It takes the average woman 20 minutes to climax from oral stimulation, so get comfortable (and bring your snorkel).

6.  EXPERIMENT TOGETHER

Women are just as curious and inclined to experiment sexually as men are--it just takes us more time to feel secure enough to do so.  Once we're able to trust that our partner isn't going to judge or ridicule*, don't be surprised to discover that we're just as eager and excited to explore uncharted waters and new territories as you are!

*As I previously discussed in my article, 'Men, Get your Wives to "Open Up"...' I discussed how critically important it is for guy to NEVER, EVER throw in the face of your wife or girlfriend, the fact that she's sexually adventurous or open-minded.  Doing this will only screw you in the end (pardon the pun), by ensuring a future for the two of you that is completely lack-luster in terms of sexual intimacy, adventure, or excitement!

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DO YOU SUFFER FROM LOW SELF ESTEEM?

DO YOU SUFFER FROM LOW SELF ESTEEM? FIND OUT!

Low self esteem can be devastating to an individual.  The constant feeling of inadequacy and unworthiness can undermine attempts to succeed at even the smallest things.  If you find yourself plagued with such feelings, ask yourself the following questions.  Awareness is the first step to overcoming any personal demon, so be honest in your answers.

HOW DO YOU FEEL AROUND OTHER PEOPLE?

Are you nervous or awkward around other individuals?  Do you ever look at anyone and think you are not on the same “level” as they are physically, mentally, or athletically?  Do you see yourself as the least important member of your family, group of friends, or office?  These persistent feelings can erode your self esteem.

HOW DO YOU VIEW YOUR PHYSICAL APPEARANCE?

Do you worry or obsess about your physical appearance?  Are you constantly trying to change your appearance for what you think is the better?  These feelings of inadequacy are quite common, especially in women.  Even the most beautiful people in the world have some feelings of inadequacy about their outward appearance.  The people society deems beautiful or perfect have secret issues about their own appearance or body, so you are definitely not alone.

HOW DO YOU TALK ABOUT YOURSELF?

Do you publicly berate yourself for fun?  Is your idea of a good conversation tearing yourself down at the expense of others?  Would you rather talk about your failures and weaknesses over your successes and strengths?  This is often the case with individuals with low self esteem.  Instead of accentuating the positive, they verbalize that constantly criticizing voice they hear in their own heads.

TIPS ON OVERCOMING

Talk to your friends and family about the way you're feeling. Chances are their perception of you is much different.   Ask your friends, coworkers, and family members about your performance, attitude, and personality.  More than likely, you will be pleasantly surprised.

Instead of constantly worrying about those aspects you deem as negative, focus on the positive.  If you find yourself slipping into a dangerous pattern of self destructiveness seek professional help as soon as possible.  The world has learned to live with you, now you must make the decision to live with yourself.  Once you are comfortable in your own skin, your self confidence will soar sky-high.

Remember to rank your own needs up there with the needs of others.  Quite often, individuals with low self esteem strive to please everyone but themselves in order to make themselves feel more adequate.  This act usually backfires since your focus is on those surrounding you instead of yourself.  Dig deep and figure out your own needs.  Focusing on yourself for a while will allow you to identify to root cause of your self esteem issues so that you can go about conquering them.

4 SIGNS YOUR RELATIONSHIP NEEDS A MAKEOVER

4 SIGNS YOUR RELATIONSHIP NEEDS A MAKEOVER

If you are unsure as to whether or not your sex life is good, it may be time for you to find out!

To help you get an accurate answer to that question, here are five signs that your sex life is in need of an immediate makeover!

Sign #1 – You Find Sex Boring

Does sex seem more like work or a chore to you?  Being intimate with your partner should not seem like a responsibly that you are required to fulfill.  Instead, it should be fun and exciting.

Sign #2 – You Are Left Unsatisfied

When you have sex with your partner, do you feel as thought you’re NOT being satisfied or pleasured?  This is often the case with women.  Women aren’t nearly as experienced as men are with self pleasure and masturbation, and therefore most don’t know how to make themselves orgasm.  But it’s certainly possible to learn!

It’s best to start by yourself with a rabbit-style vibe such as the INA 2.  Once you’re successfully able to reach orgasm several times on your own, you’ll be much better equipped to teach your partner how to do it. 

If this is an issue in your relationship, it must be addressed.  The sooner the better!  A relationship where only one party is pleased, is destined to fail!!!

Sign #3 – You Don’t Have It

To have a good sex life, you must first be having sex.  And if you’re in a relationship, you certainly should be.  Whether you get intimate with your partner on a daily basis or even just once a week, this closeness is important to your relationship and not just in the physical sense.

Sign #4 – Your Relationship Is Failing

Do you and your partner spend most of your time arguing?  If so, your relationship may be in serious trouble.  Despite arguing about a topic not related to intimacy, such as money or work, did you know that your lack of intimacy may be to blame?  Couples who are happy inside the bedroom are likely to be happy outside of it as well.  The two should go hand in hand.

7 SURE-FIRE WAYS TO SPICE THINGS UP IN THE BEDROOM

7 SURE-FIRE WAYS TO SERIOUSLY HEAT THINGS UP THIS SUMMER

1.  PLAY A GAME


Have you and your lover each jot down a personal fantasy on a piece of paper.  Without looking at each other’s fantasy, engage in some type of competitive game or activity.  It could be bowling, playing pool, playing cards, whatever.  The “winner” gets to have his or her fantasy acted out, although in this game, there’s really no loser!

2.  THINK OUTSIDE THE BEDROOM


Don’t confine you and your partner’s sex-capades to the bedroom only.  Mix things up by taking your lust fest to other areas of the home.  Furniture like chairs and couches will enable you try different positions that provide both of you with different types of sensations.  Take it outside even, and enjoy a naked skinny dipping session in the privacy of your own backyard.

3.  MAKE A SEXY BUCKET LIST


Have you and your partner each jot down a set of fantasies or something each would like to experience sexually down on a small piece of paper.  Use a new piece of paper for each idea.  Without revealing what you’ve written, fold each piece of paper up and throw them into a jar or lock box.  Every month, randomly select one fantasy from the jar and commit to taking on the challenge.

 4.  EYEBALL PORN


Watching erotic films together is not only a turn on but it can be a great tool to explore some new moves to try in the bedroom. Turn on a steamy flick that you feel comfortable with, and use it as a guide to tell your guys what turns you on, what turns you off, and what you’re dying to try with him.

 5.  SET UP A FAKE EMERGENCY


On a day when your husband or boyfriend is out running errands or doing something equally mundane, call him frantically and tell him there’s a situation at the house and you need him to return home immediately.  Then simply hang up the phone.  When he begrudgingly arrives home, tell him you’re in the bedroom and need his help.  When he opens the bedroom door, have him find you lying in the bed, with nothing but spiked stiletto heels on, and your wrist inexplicably handcuffed to the bed-rail.

 6.  SHARE YOUR TOYS


Your favorite toy shouldn’t be reserved for personal pleasure only.  Incorporating toys into play time with your partner is an exciting way to rev up your relationship.  Plus, many new toys on the market are designed to pleasure both partners during intercourse.  The TIANI 2 by LELO has become the best selling couple’s vibe in the world, winning several awards and acclamations including the Red Dot design of the year for 2012.

7.  TRY SOME 50 SHADES SEX

50 Shades of Grey did not become the sensation it is with housewives all over the country if it hadn’t peaked it’s readers own desires or fantasies.  Don’t be afraid to incorporate some light bondage into the bedroom.  Trust me, your girlfriend or wife won’t complain!  LELO has a whole line dedicated to the items used by Christian on Anastasia in the famed book, such as: The Tantra Feather Teaser, The Sensua Suede Whip, The Sutraa Chain-link Cuffs, The Intima Silk Blindfold, and the Ben-Wa Balls (aka Luna Beads).

 

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Items can be purchased individually, however some of the pleasure sets, such as the Dare Me Pleasure Set, features some of the most popular 50 Shades items, including the cuffs, the blindfold, the whip and the ben wa balls.

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Luna Beads: The Bestselling Kegel Weights for Health & Pleasure

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Works by subconsciously triggering a tightening of the user’s PC muscles, resulting in:

Increased tone, firmness, and tightness of a woman's "lady bits";

Longer, stronger, more attainable orgasms;

Reduced risk of developing incontinence and other pelvic floor disorders later in life

 

Personal Review of LELO's Luna Beads:

[quote align="center" color="#ff6699"]I don't mean to brag or anything, but honest to God, I had an ex tell me he thought I had vaginal rejuvenation--true story![/quote]

How To Use:

The best part about these magic little balls is that all you have to do is pop them in--that's it!  You can choose to leave them in for as long as you want, but LELO recommends wearing them for at least 30 minutes a day, several times a week.

Personally, I like to wear mine all day long, 2-3 times a week.  I pop them in in the morning and wear them throughout my day.  At night, I simply pull on the small string that’s attached to the beads to remove.

How they feel:

I liken the feeling of having them in to that of wearing a tampon.  They don't hurt, feel awkward, or uncomfortable at all.   In fact, the only time I'm reminded I'm even wearing them is when walking hurriedly towards my car at the end of the work day, and hearing an ever-so-faint jingling coming from my vag.

Product details:

Luna Beads are available in two sizes – Classic and Mini.

Classic Luna Beads are recommended for women over age 30/ and or women who have experienced childbirth.

Luna Beads Mini are recommended for women under age 30 who have never experienced childbirth.

Check out what the following publications have to say about LELO's Luna Beads:

"A fashion item (with) enormous clinical benefits to women and their partners".

"The best part? You can go about your daily life and no one has to know that you're wearing them".

"You owe it to yourself to start using LUNA Beads".

Learn more about Luna Beads by checking out this video: