MEN & MARRIAGE: THE SECRET TO FINDING "THE ONE"

MEN & MARRIAGE:

THE SECRET TO FINDING LONG LASTING LOVE

Since the 1970s just about half of all first marriages end in divorce(with the risks of second and third marriages ending in divorce increasing to 60 percent and more).  Evidence shows this astounding statistic can, in part, be attributed to 2 major myths a vast majority of men consider to be true.

MYTH #1: FIDELITY IS A CONCEPT ASSOCIATED WITH A MUCH SHORTER LIFESPAN

Humans today live significantly longer than those centuries ago when the concept of male monogamy was first introduced.  Today the current life expectancy is 78.7 years, (however does vary based on the country you live in, gender, lifestyle, and ethnicity).  To an average guy who gets marred in his mid to late 20s, being intimate with just one woman for the next 50 years is simply unrealistic.

MYTH #2: SEXUAL ATTRACTION IS THE MOST IMPORTANT COMPONENT OF A LASTING RELATIONSHIP

Researchers have found that the most influential factor to sustaining a long lasting successful relationship has little to do with sexual attraction.  The true secret to sustaining long term love is not who turns you on the most, but rather who you're able to connect with best on an emotional, mental and spiritual level.  Adjunct Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Stanford University, Thomas Plante, Ph.D points out "The day-to-day life of marital partners is so much more about shared interests, values, and perspectives on life and the world rather than who you enjoy looking at and having sex with for a few hours in your week or month. While this notion seems obvious it is remarkable how few people follow the wisdom on this principle".

IN SUM

For men who believe their ability to connect with the hottest woman around will accelerate the relationship beyond what is capable with a average looking woman, who's personality you love and with whom you enjoy being around.  Remind yourself which strategy is more likely to result in a relationship that lasts "till death do you part".