IS MONOGAMY REALISTIC IN TODAY'S SOCIETY??

April 10, 2013

Author: Emily Croushore

According to studies conducted by Eric Anderson, an American sociologist at England’s University of Winchester, an astounding 78% of all men cheat. In his book entitled The Monogamy Gap: Men, Love, and the Reality of Cheating, Anderson contends that although a man might love, adore, and appreciate his wife or girlfriend,
the simple fact remains that irrespective of his relationship status, a man will inherently crave to have sex with a variety of women throughout his lifetime. This got me thinking, in our society, where women are hyper sexualized and men are socially encouraged to be as sexually active as humanly possible, is monogamy even realistic anymore? Later I found myself having frank conversations with different men to find out what they believed.
I spoke to literally dozens upon dozens upon dozens of men, all of various backgrounds, ethnicity, socioeconomic status, and spiritual/religious beliefs. Some married or engaged, while others were merely casually dating or single. the other were single.  Despite the wide variety of men I spoke with about the topic however, they all had one thing
in common, to some degree they all believed that in today’s society, monogamy is in fact, not realistic for most people.

So what do you think? Where are us women to go from here? Do we convince ourselves that this information is just simply untrue, or that while it might be true for other women, OUR boyfriend/husband is the exception? Or do we choose to accept the information as true and engage in the same type of behavior behind our partner’s back or have an open relationship?

What do you think?

Watch this video now about monogamy:

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